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Do not assume for one second that the definition of the word bum is exclusive to someone who begs for food or change, or people who are dirty and homeless. Bums come in all forms. Many of them are very well-dressed, very handsome, have the sharpest hair cuts, smell nice, and are intelligent enough to bring lots of game with them to play you with. Do not be fooled by their charm, good looks, or charisma. Bums like to carefully choose their targets. They intentionally prey on the lonely, vulnerable, emotionally repressed, and sexually starved. Bums often display signs of their loser behavior. You may have dated a few, or you could be dating one right now and not know it.
Below are 12 Signs to help you detect whether or not you are dating one of these parasitic bloodsuckers:
- Forms Attachment Fast – Bums tend to have very shallow relationships, and this can lead to women being impressed by their eagerness to tell you they love you, and talks of marriage and commitment. Do not be fooled. It’s all game. The bum isn’t really committed. This kind of talk is done deliberately to throw you in a headspin of confusion as it positions you exactly where they want you to be – at their every beck and call.
- Borrows Money – It starts with a few bucks and promises to pay you back. Pretty soon the borrowing becomes habit and you never see the money in return. Cheapskates are bad; freeloaders are worse. You know he could contribute, but he’s selfish and has an out-of-wack sense of entitlement. He’s a bum!
- Constantly Gives Excuses – Losers give excuses, winners make things happen. If he is constantly giving excuse after excuse as to why he can’t stay employed, isn’t in school, doesn’t have money, has a bad temper, or why he becomes violent when you refuse to give into his needs. He’s a bum!
- Lives With His Mother, Aunt, Grandmother, Best Friend etc. – This isn’t a necessarily dealbreaker for some, but it is definitely something worth examining. Personal economic downturns are usually temporary, not permanent. If he has a basement “room” completely set up where he pursues his personal interests such as music, computers, porn, lifting weights. Yeah, this dude has set up house. He isn’t going nowhere anytime soon unless it’s to your house to live off of you. He’s a bum!
- Hits The Panic Button at Sign of a Breakup – Bums tend to panic at the thought of you cutting them off – unless it’s their idea – and then you’re dropped like a hot rock. They will break down and cry, plead, promise to change, offer gifts, even threaten with suicide. It’s all game to play on your emotions, and is done to throw you into a guilt trip where you are then thrusted into multitude of emotions (ex. blaming yourself, feelings that you are the problem, etc.)
- Paranoid Control – Bums can be very controlling which has to do with their feelings of inadequacy. They will encourage you to drop your hobbies, interests, and involvement with others, yes, even your friends and family. The idea behind this is to prevent you from doing anything other than engaging in activities which they totally control.
- If He’s a Dead-Beat Father – This is self-explanatory. Do not assume that he will be any different if you have a baby for him.
- If He Abuses Alcohol and Drugs – He’s a Bum!
- Spends His Days Texting, Facebooking, Playing Video Games, Eating and Sleeping All Day – He’s a bum! Real men are productive individuals. They will will make themselves useful in any way they can, not only to you but themselves.
- Constantly Asking To Borrow Your Car – He’s a bum!
- If Everything You Do is Never Enough! He is a bum.
- Lives in a Constant State of Drama – Criminal record, bad credit, cries broke, has a story for everything, is irresponsible, and lies all the time for no reason at all. He’s a bum!
These are just a few warning signs to give you an idea of how to identify a bum and how to spot their loser behavior. Bums are like parasites or even worst, yeast infections. If you do not protect yourself against them, they will manifest and take over. I’ve watched some of the strongest, independent, self-sufficient women fall victim to good looks and a big penis, only to find themselves left with an empty pocketbook, a broken heart, and tons of emotional baggage.
Do not ever allow yourself to be so trapped in your emotions that you feel you are unable to get out of such a relationship. We all inevitably turn to self-doubt when we’re afraid we can’t control our experience. Please know that it is not your job to correct, fix, cure, change, or clean up any man.
The best type of kryptonite against bums is to set some standards. Your standards will help you to recognize your worth and sticking to them will help you to avoid the loser types at all costs. Do not compromise your happiness for anyone. If a potential suitor is displaying any of the above signs – take them as giant red flags and run away as fast as you can.
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Source by Faye Bishop
